I’m Better Than You

Cassandra Moton – Children’s Programming Pastor

Today I was shocked. It’s Sunday and I was at church, doing my job in Children’s Ministry. I was sitting in our lobby at the front desk when I was smacked in the face with someone who believes to the core that males are superior to females.

This wasn’t a stranger talking to me – this is someone I know by name and whom I have had many conversations with. But this person explained to me very clearly how we women go crazy at a “certain” age. How we can’t control ourselves, how we scream and throw things and let our emotions drive us to be literally crazy. He appeared to be completely serious. I looked at him and simply replied, ”Well I’m 45 and I haven’t done any of those things – I’m not crazy”. He slyly smiled at me and looked over to my male co-worker standing beside me and continued explaining to him why women cannot help but be crazy. It’s our hormones, we will all, guaranteed, go crazy. My co-worker tried to defend not only me, but all womanhood everywhere. It didn’t make a difference. I’ve met this type of person before. They believe what they believe about men and woman, and nothing I say will change them. My co-worker is younger than me and hasn’t run across such a blatant act of a superiority complex as much as I have. I’m a woman, half Mexican and married to a black man… many people think they are superior to me.

What’s going on right now in Charleston VA is white supremacy. Let’s not mince words. Let’s call it what it is. It’s wrong. There is nothing okay about it. It’s a group of white people who believe they are superior to everyone else, especially blacks. I am not black and can never, ever know the full depth of their pain. This isn’t a post about racism or politics. If I thought my blog could clear up those issues and make everything better, I’d gladly do it! No, I don’t think I can fix the world with my blog. But here is the question for today, for you and I. Have you ever felt superior to someone? Have you ever placed yourself or thought of yourself as superior? You hopefully haven’t done it to all of womanhood or to anyone who is not your skin color. But seriously – have you? What do you think of someone who is mentally ill? Or homeless? How about someone who is gay, or transgender? Have you ever thought someone is lesser than just because they made less money than you or lived in a different community?

We each, if we are truly honest with ourselves, have had the feeling of being superior. It’s not okay. Those feelings at times can bubble up to the surface, and when they do, I have to confess them to God.

I remember clearly when I was little, walking up to my bus stop only to see a group of kids taunting a boy who was chubby and different looking. One older boy was leading the name calling. I remember being scared and not wanting to get involved. But I was there, not standing up for the boy being yelled at. The name calling turned quickly into violence. The group began throwing rocks at this young boy. One hit him in the head. Thank goodness the school bus pulled up before it got worse. I will never forget the look in his eyes and the blood running down his face. Why didn’t anyone stand up for him? Why didn’t I?

I remember being in the 3rd grade and a group of girls making fun of me every day. They called me “fish lips”. Words matter and those words slice a knife into my heart even today. I felt inferior to them. I would cry at night and pray I would look different in the morning – that I would look just like the other girls. But that never happened.

Who you have thought of as less than you? Ask God for forgiveness. Only He can heal your heart.

Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism but accepts from every nation the one who fears him and does what is right.” Acts 10:34-35

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27

We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23

I forgive completely the man who boasted men as superior to me this morning. I am not superior to him. He is also God’s child, equal to me in every way.

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I’m Better Than You

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- I am the programming coordinator at Central Christian Church AZ. I also moderate the Central Teaching Blog. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!